Echoing a few other posts, being myself and achieving my goals while also providing for a family.
Addiction to pornography.
Off and on depression.
Ask HN: What do you struggle with?
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#113Energy/productivity. I have the time to work on things, but after a day of work and an hour at the gym my brain just wants to go straight to reading, videogames, or laying down and relaxing.
I'm struggling to consistently use those 5+ hours of free time every day for something that will move me further in life.
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#114Pivoting my career and figuring out how to enjoy life again. I’ve been working on Wall Street for the past 4-5 years in a front office role and am apparently good at what I do, though I don’t find the work fulfilling or interesting. I’m strongly considering going back to school to focus on more technical fields where I believe my passion lies, but it’s a daunting task when I also have career prospects with my current role that would likely pay more but at the cost of less time, happiness, and fulfillment.
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#115Benching 225 for reps mostly
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#116I’m 30 and haven’t really had much dating experience. It boggles my mind how people are already married by 30. How does dating work? Serious question.
1. Meet someone you're interested in via an online medium (tinder, bumble, POF, OKC, etc.) OR irl through social activities.
2. Go on a date. Follow KISS principle: evening time, grab a drink, socialize. Use FORD principle to create conversation. Test the waters with various topics of interests, talk about stuff that you find passionate (people usually gravitate to you if you speak passionately about something)
3. ??? Seriously, choose your own adventure.
4. You're dating. Second date, choose an activity or something else not drinking related (unless you bond over drinking... maybe that's your thing, no judgement).
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#117I want to leave my country for work/ study reasons, but I don't know how to start or where to look. I'm a EE graduated from a university here in South America (Chile) and currently working as a SW lead in IoT / fullstack projects. Every time I look outside (linkedin, /cscareerquestions, HN), there are people with far more experience or qualifications. It makes me feel my ideas are all wishful thinking. That the succe…
Intenta conseguir trabajo en Estados Unidos. Para los chilenos es mas facil que incluso un Europeo conseguir trabajo en Estados Unidos por la visa H1B1. Pero ojo que solo las empresas grandes estan dispuestas a hacer la pega que implica (Abogados y esas cosas). Ademas a los SW les pagan mucho mejor aqui que en cualquier parte del mundo. Source: Chileno en USA
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Try to get a job in the United States. It is easier for Chileans than even a European to get work in the United States for the H1B1 visa. But beware that only large companies are willing to make the implication (Lawyers and those things). In addition to the SW they pay much better here than anywhere in the world. Source: Chilean in the USA
From google translate: https://goo.gl/N57zNf
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#118I struggle with the question whether to have children or not. I'm surrounded by new fathers who struggle with their children, whose wives have turned from attractive women into unattractive moms. I read witty comments all the time suggesting how much of a burden kids are. This struggle burns me out.
If you aren't sure if you want kids or not and your partner is the same, you probably shouldn't have them. A lot of people get intense pressure from their family to have kids so it can be a very difficult decision to make.
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#119I feel like it's "everything" right now. Finding happiness. Impending divorce, possibly losing my kids, fighting with my soon-to-be-ex-spouse with regards to the kids education & where to live, how to make ends meet, etc. Being miserable with my career... It's a long list.
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#120I find it very difficult to care about the shit that needs shoveling every day in the bowels of a tech company (or really anywhere in corporate America). I remember when I used to be able to convince myself of the value of what my employer was doing and my contribution to that.
Not only all that, but there is so much about tech companies now that I find distasteful. The underplayed arrogance of engineers, the cliquishness of who gets to make decisions and who gets the good work, being on a team starving for resources while others get every blessing available, the pervasive self-serious belief that we are changing the world instead of making a bit of lucre (nothing wrong with that really, but call it what it is).
I don't have any drive for any of it. I just want to read and think about things that are interesting to me. I'm hoping I can cash out and stop the madness, but as we all know, options are lottery tickets until they aren't.