Not my entire life, but competing with my girlfriend/wife. Trying to win arguments instead of trying to solve the problem. Holding onto resentments instead of letting them go. We used to have huge arguements all the time, it took having a kid together to finally hammer it into my head that we are on the same team, we need to work together. Since then we've had 2 kids under 2 during covid and barely argued in 4 years
> We used to have huge arguments all the time, it took having a kid together to finally hammer it into my head that we are on the same team
Nothing builds teams like having a common enemy. :-)