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Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#11
Professionally, I've made the decision to burn bridges on multiple occasions. I'm never a fan of the act itself; but I also have yet to regret the choice in any of the instances.

As far as the outcome, it's always been the same: short-term loss of revenue, but in every case it's cleared way for more fruitful projects.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#12

I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

It seems to me like you burned bridges for the sake of it or to get more income, is that true?

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

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I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

Even being more 'political' oriented, I can certainly understand your behaviour/strategy on life and learn from your comment.

But, be conscient that your 'strategy' doesn't work so clearly in other backgrounds: remove the ever expanding market existent in IT and add a family. Now you might have a loosing strategy on the long term. During a 'bear market' is an huge advantage to be trusted.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

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I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

This way to leave is expensive to the employer in terms of the time lost before they realize you will not communicate again and a replacement must be found. Why did you choose to not communicate with them that you quit beforehand? I am genuinely curious because I have witnessed people quitting by suddenly ceasing all communication before and I completely fail to understand it. Note that this is not mutually exclusive with blacklisting their email address and changing your phone number.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

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I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

This way to leave is expensive to the employer in terms of the time lost before they realize you will not communicate again and a replacement must be found. Why did you choose to not communicate with them that you quit beforehand? I am genuinely curious because I have witnessed people quitting by suddenly ceasing all communication before and I completely fail to understand it. Note that this is not mutually exclusive…

I guess it may be when you realize the absurdity of the situation you are on (they are incompetent, irrationally demanding, etc) and that you really would not lose much just cutting those people, also to avoid unnecessary awkwardness when quitting (this may be inteprerted as you are in an indirect way saying that they suck).

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#16

I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

What was your motivation for handling things this way?

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#17

I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

This is really dysfunctional.

You obviously had some serious problems with the people you abandoned suddenly with no warning. Why not learn to communicate?

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#18
It's been a while since I last "walked out", but the one time I most clearly remember is this:

Informed this guy I was not going to work any further with him, took another job on and simply ignored his emails/texts/whatever.

Blocked him from calling me (Android blacklist).

I just saw him one or two times, to collect the remaining payments.

I've been pretty formal when talking him, and whenever he asked "I'm doing things" was my reply.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#19
For a former landlord, I left a one-star review on yelp and also gave them a piece of my mind over the phone. They're maybe the largest property manager in my city and would significantly limit my ability to rent.

I also left a one star review, created a mock twitter account, and berated the staff of a local, crooked towing company run by former police officers.

At a financial company, I reported my co-worker to the authorities due to a sensitive new project, his erratic behavior, and his public history of financial crimes somehow unknown to my superiors/HR.

At another job, I told my boss I hated my job just about every week for a few months (in so many words). Then I quit. Maybe that should have burned a bridge but he seemed happy that I basically was giving him a heads up, and I also delivered the project I was on before leaving.

Re: Ask HN: How have you burned bridges with people?

#20

I burned bridges several times. It usually resulted in doubling my income. CASE #1 Context: Full-time job as a web developer in Eastern Europe My boss was explaining something to me. When he left the room to answer a phone call, I quickly left the office and never communicated with the company again. Outcome: I avoided being dragged down by work requests from that company, which would have kept me near the previous s…

This is really dysfunctional. You obviously had some serious problems with the people you abandoned suddenly with no warning. Why not learn to communicate?

You can't really communicate with children. I agree with yetanotheracc. Getting up and leaving is the most sane approach with the least stress,
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