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Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

#11
The ability to think independently is the key. A cofounder who is constantly looking to you for the next step will bring you down. Look for people who have proven track record of motivating themselves and executing their own ideas. This does not necessarily need to be in the form of a startup.

Of course there are other things like chemistry and skill, but independent thinking is absolutely critical.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

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I had a friend who would "test" girlfriends by taking them camping for a few days. Camping or other intense travel that raises the level of discomfort (no running water/flush toilets/electricity/internet/air conditioning etc.) reveals someone's true nature very quickly. You'll see whether they get cranky or stay optimistic, whether they're disorganized or not, whether they carry more or less of their fair share of th…

This is really good idea :)

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

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I have a story in the making that I hope will have a happy ending. I started a company with two of my good friends whom I also happen to be living with at the moment. We're profitable and growing, but that doesn't mean we don't have problems. I am the technical co-founder while the other two handle operations and the business development side. However, they seem to be just going with the flow while I on the other han…

I hope with you but that looks like something that needs attention, don't wait too long with addressing all this, once tempers get frayed it is a lot harder to re-establish a dialogue.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

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I had a friend who would "test" girlfriends by taking them camping for a few days. Camping or other intense travel that raises the level of discomfort (no running water/flush toilets/electricity/internet/air conditioning etc.) reveals someone's true nature very quickly. You'll see whether they get cranky or stay optimistic, whether they're disorganized or not, whether they carry more or less of their fair share of th…

This is really good idea :)

I concur, I feel like this or any other situation to bring out true emotion is what is needed.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

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I have a story in the making that I hope will have a happy ending. I started a company with two of my good friends whom I also happen to be living with at the moment. We're profitable and growing, but that doesn't mean we don't have problems. I am the technical co-founder while the other two handle operations and the business development side. However, they seem to be just going with the flow while I on the other han…

I also want to mention our equity is split three ways evenly with no vesting.

Woah. Never ever do that again. You've given away the one tool that is used to deal with the issues you list.

Not to mention no VC will touch you until you include vesting. But may be you've no plans to raise funding.

Now on to your question, I would begin by making sure that they are assigned goals that are as challenging as yours. If you feel they can help with growth, make that an official part of their day to day job. They will either succeed or fa at it. They will either work hard to achieve it or not make an attempt. Either case, when you make it "official", its good for everyone and gives everyone clarity.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

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I had a friend who would "test" girlfriends by taking them camping for a few days. Camping or other intense travel that raises the level of discomfort (no running water/flush toilets/electricity/internet/air conditioning etc.) reveals someone's true nature very quickly. You'll see whether they get cranky or stay optimistic, whether they're disorganized or not, whether they carry more or less of their fair share of th…

Is his name Dwight Schrute?

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

#17

I have a story in the making that I hope will have a happy ending. I started a company with two of my good friends whom I also happen to be living with at the moment. We're profitable and growing, but that doesn't mean we don't have problems. I am the technical co-founder while the other two handle operations and the business development side. However, they seem to be just going with the flow while I on the other han…

I don't have any specific advice, but I would encourage you to read the book Non-violent communication (it's short). There are some "cheesy" aspects to the book (mainly the poetry that introduces some chapters), but a lot of really good / specific tactics for communicating without putting others or yourself on the defensive, which I think it one of the most important aspects of having a conversation like the one you will need to have.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

#18

I have a story in the making that I hope will have a happy ending. I started a company with two of my good friends whom I also happen to be living with at the moment. We're profitable and growing, but that doesn't mean we don't have problems. I am the technical co-founder while the other two handle operations and the business development side. However, they seem to be just going with the flow while I on the other han…

Please please please communicate with your co-founders! Communication is absolutely necessary for your continued survival and success. Do not avoid talking about the issue because it's uncomfortable. Rather, you need to face it head on.

My co-founders and I are constantly discussing uncomfortable but important company issues. We've built up enough trust such that we understand everyone has the company's best interests in mind. Sometime we get upset while having these conversations, but the long term result is always better.

We also have regular 1-on-1s with all of our employees, and one uncomfortable question we always ask them is: "what is the worst part about working here?" Then, we fix it. Our rational is that if we can always fix everyone's worst problem, then everyone will be very happy in the long term.

On a semi-related note, I'm sorry to hear that your co-founders aren't working as hard as you. That's unfortunately a terribly common issue, and it's exacerbated by the fact that they don't appreciate the technical work that you do. I wish there was some easy way to fix that, but I fear that that along with the lack of communication among you will spell doom for your company.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

#19

I have a story in the making that I hope will have a happy ending. I started a company with two of my good friends whom I also happen to be living with at the moment. We're profitable and growing, but that doesn't mean we don't have problems. I am the technical co-founder while the other two handle operations and the business development side. However, they seem to be just going with the flow while I on the other han…

Please please please communicate with your co-founders! Communication is absolutely necessary for your continued survival and success. Do not avoid talking about the issue because it's uncomfortable. Rather, you need to face it head on.

My co-founders and I are constantly discussing uncomfortable but important company issues. We've built up enough trust such that we understand everyone has the company's best interests in mind. Sometime we get upset while having these conversations, but the long term result is always better.

We also have regular 1-on-1s with all of our employees, and one uncomfortable question we always ask them is: "what is the worst part about working here?" Then, we fix it. Our rational is that if we can always fix everyone's worst problem, then everyone will be very happy in the long term.

On a semi-related note, I'm sorry to hear that your co-founders aren't working as hard as you. That's unfortunately a terribly common issue, and it's exacerbated by the fact that they don't appreciate the technical work that you do. I wish there was some easy way to fix that, but I fear that that along with the lack of communication among you will spell doom for your company.

Re: Ask HN: Horror co-founder stories.

#20
I did a course in founder dilemmas this semester at MIT taught by Professor Matt Marx. The recurring theme from the course was that poorly considered early decisions could have lasting consequences. One of the main issues was how homophilous relationships (classmates, family) between co-founders had significantly lower success rates than non-homophilous. From this, the one lesson I've definitely learnt is to look for someone drastically different to myself when trying to find a co-founder. A suggested read is 'The Founder's Dilemmas' by Noam Wasserman, full of a lot of lessons that can often be avoided.
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