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Remember - you're only 30, you've still got time.
Failure to let them have my attention is my biggest regret from my 30s.
Go deep into a single hobby that brings you intense joy and puts you in social situations. Don't dabble in a few and don't focus on ones you can do yourself.
Start connecting with people (like sending out birthday cards, celebrating milestones) and catching up with close friends or family more intentionally. Put effort into building and maintaining relationships.
Lastly, try and be a bit more unfocused. I tried too hard to live a "fulfilling" life in my 30s and felt like I spent a lot of energy and time on the wrong things.
If you don't like traveling, don't travel. If you don't want kids, don't have kids.
There's no such thing as wasted time because you get to pick what you do with your time. If you choose to do it, how can it be a waste?
You'll be dead in 50 years. Do what you want to do, not some idealized version of being in your 30s.
Hence, your best bet is to explore but be picky about who you'd want in your life, in your job/business/friend/relationship, etc.
Prog G talks about this topic a lot.
In your 30s you should be in a big city with like minded peers, in an office meeting people, making friends and if you are single, meeting people you are into.
You should be in the best shape of your life.
So in summary
Make sure you spend some time each week in an office Make sure you are spending time getting into shape Make sure you are dating if you are single
In the last year I did a lot of thinking along these lines (I’m 30 for context). Until now I’ve spent a lot of my focus chasing credentials, even if I didn’t really realize that. For example, having good schools, companies, etc (YC even!) on the resume. All of that served me well, but I think now it’s important to switch to harvesting some of the fruits of that labor and deciding what I inherently want to pursue. I g…
I would give somebody in my situation different advice than i.e. single guy just promoted to first ~senior position in his second job after college.
In the last year I did a lot of thinking along these lines (I’m 30 for context). Until now I’ve spent a lot of my focus chasing credentials, even if I didn’t really realize that. For example, having good schools, companies, etc (YC even!) on the resume. All of that served me well, but I think now it’s important to switch to harvesting some of the fruits of that labor and deciding what I inherently want to pursue. I g…
Thank you for sharing Obituary for a Quiet Life, it’s a beautiful piece.