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Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by ashton314 »

jf22 wrote: post #11

Kids. I've gained much more focus and I live more in the moment. I also don't care as much about work things. Loads of technical debt, unsustainable roadmaps, weird coworkers, bad bosses, who cares?

Nothing beats reading a toddler bedtime stories and then having them fall asleep in your arms.

Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by pesfandiar »

jf22 wrote: post #11

Kids. I've gained much more focus and I live more in the moment. I also don't care as much about work things. Loads of technical debt, unsustainable roadmaps, weird coworkers, bad bosses, who cares?

"Parenting is about growing. It's about our own growing as much as it is about our children's growing and that kind of growing happens little by little." - Fred Rogers

Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by _qfi9 »

leaving religion

leaving reddit

avoiding marriage&kids (okay actually i only bring it up cuz the default replies seemed incredibly un hacker news to me, more like boomer news "religion, marriage, kids" lol, bruh one of my college buddies is big into religion and now he is married and has a kid and he used to be almost as smart as me now he probly couldn't program his way out of paper bag)

keeping a productivity computer where I have youtube&hacker news banned via host file

Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by peruvian »

Going to be ironic and say reducing my time on forums massively.

Like many nerdy tech guys I spent most of my teens and 20s on forums. I'm 30 now, younger than many here, but I've come to realize spending more than an hour per week in them is a waste of time.

Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by nullindividual »

hiAndrewQuinn wrote: post #13

Finding a romantic partner and getting married, easily. The person I was before meeting my wife and the person I am after being with her for a year are unrecognizably different.

And when you get divorced, you’ll rediscover yourself and never change for anyone again. You’ll ask yourself why you changed and gave up activities you enjoyed while picking up activities you dislike.

Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by supah »

nullindividual wrote: post #17
hiAndrewQuinn wrote: post #13

Finding a romantic partner and getting married, easily. The person I was before meeting my wife and the person I am after being with her for a year are unrecognizably different.

And when you get divorced, you’ll rediscover yourself and never change for anyone again. You’ll ask yourself why you changed and gave up activities you enjoyed while picking up activities you dislike.

This rings true to myself. While I thought I changed for the better, I did, but sacrificed all the things I really enjoyed doing. Best thing I did after 15 years was find myself again. What I can’t discount is I’m a better version of myself than I was prior.

Re: Ask HN: What is something that had the largest positive impact on your life?

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Post by nullindividual »

_qfi9 wrote: post #15

leaving religion leaving reddit avoiding marriage&kids (okay actually i only bring it up cuz the default replies seemed incredibly un hacker news to me, more like boomer news "religion, marriage, kids" lol, bruh one of my college buddies is big into religion and now he is married and has a kid and he used to be almost as smart as me now he probly couldn't program his way out of paper bag) keeping a productivity compu…

Don't compare your choices to other's. That is unhealthy, whether you admire or dislike their choices.

Certain choices work for some people and make them happy. Perhaps your friend doesn't give a rats ass about coding out of a wet paper bag and sees you as a miserable shut-in.

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