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Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by comprev »

Everything is a better alternative to suicide, even if your mind can’t see it at this moment.

There will be someone who you know deep down that will listen when you need to talk.

In the last month a close friend of mine lost her partner to suicide and she’s having difficulty with the grieving process. She knows she can call me any time of day and I’ll pick up, no matter what I’m doing. Only yesterday I was in an important meeting (part of the team presenting) and I received a message saying “I can’t cope any more, I just want to die.”.

Within seconds I excused myself, stepped out of the room and called her.

That 5min phone call was more important than any meeting.

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by globalise83 »

Find an activity which puts you in contact with good people and during which you don't think about other things. I recommend something like judo, as many times a week as you can. During the class you won't be able to think about other stuff and afterwards you'll feel better.

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by tjarrett »

ytNumbers wrote: post #10

If you haven't tried going to a naturopathic/holistic doctor, that might help. If you've already been to that sort of physician, you might want to get a second opinion. It sounds like you've already covered the basics like getting your vitamin D levels and vitamin B levels checked. You might be one doctor visit away from a permanent solution to a temporary problem. When I found my current physician, I learned how med…

"It wasn't that hard for me to find a quality physician."

Any tips? I keep swinging and missing.

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by achenet »

journaling, meditation, more specifically lying in the corpse pose for about an hour a day, diet (I currently follow a paleolithic ketogenic diet with no salt, although find what works for you via keeping a food journal), exercise and good social connection have been what has worked best for me.

Good luck ^_^

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by prometheus76 »

I'm sorry to hear you are suffering. I have struggled with many of the things you mentioned. This will be an unpopular response on this board, but I want to share it anyway, because it's the only thing that has helped heal me and helped me find relief.

I began attending an Orthodox Christian church about four years ago. I was a staunch atheist for many years before that, but my life was falling apart and I felt I had nothing else to lose. It was strange and I had no idea what was going on, but I also felt more peaceful and couldn't wait to go back.

It hasn't been easy by any stretch of the imagination, but my whole life has been transformed in ways I never would have expected.

Again, I am sorry to hear you are suffering so deeply. I will pray for you and I hope you find peace soon. Please don't give up.

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by needadvicebadly »

prometheus76 wrote: post #16

I'm sorry to hear you are suffering. I have struggled with many of the things you mentioned. This will be an unpopular response on this board, but I want to share it anyway, because it's the only thing that has helped heal me and helped me find relief. I began attending an Orthodox Christian church about four years ago. I was a staunch atheist for many years before that, but my life was falling apart and I felt I had…

I was raised in an Orthodox Christian church, and I blame it for much of the parental authoritarianism and shame I was subject to, although I do recognize that is more an institutional thing than it is the philosophy. I at times wish I had discovered the religion later in life like you did.

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by naasking »

See if you can find MDMA-assisted therapy:

https://psychedelic.support/resources/when-can-i-get-mdma-th...

I don't think there's anything nearly as powerful as MDMA for seeing through the fog of suffering and restoring hope that there's a solution.

I have to stress that it should be conjunction with a therapist though, because it's only a short-term solution. Antidepressants take weeks to kick in, and MDMA has been used during those few weeks for people who have suicidal ideation like you describe because it's an instant, short-term cure, but not a long-term option.

Re: Ask HN: Trauma has broken me. Nothing has worked. Alternatives to suicide?

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Post by rubyn00bie »

Khelavaster wrote: post #9
needadvicebadly wrote: post #3

Earlier quoted context omitted.

Thanks, but I don't need a nice chat; I need a longterm solution.

If you're angry, you're not depressed. Consider sharing your deep outrage with literally everybody whose job it technically is to do a better job. Useless psychiatrist or therapist? Try yelling at and berating them for ineffectusl organization, then trickle elaborate, true bad reviews about them on Google Reviews, Yelp, etc. Bad social services organization? Go into different offices near where you live, ask why you…

> If you're angry, you're not depressed.

That’s flat out wrong. Depression 100% manifests as anger. I’m not sure if this is bad sarcasm, or just bad advice but either way— it’s bad.

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