Yes, a woman.
I see what you mean. I tried out a few dating apps and it was surprising how many messages were coming in from different directions. I just didn't have the time or energy to talk to all these people at once. I wasn't swiping on many people at the same time in the first place, but even juggling 2 or 3 conversations would be too much sometimes (especially if I was already having one really interesting chat with someone else, that kind of got all my attention). This resulted in some contacts being ignored, especially if all I got from them was a "Hey" or something, which unfortunately only contributes to the demoralizing aspect of not being replied to.
One app where I didn't feel that pressure was Bumble. At least at the time the rule was that on Bumble, women had to message first (not sure if it still works like that?) I liked that because it created a slower pace - I was able to swipe on people whose profiles I liked, but then take more time to initiate the conversation once matches came in. That also made me more selective about who I matched with; knowing I'd have to approach them, I'd look for profiles that had some especially interesting or unique information for me to use for an opener (because I didn't want to be one of those people just sending "hey").
So that "I message first" aspect was what made me prefer Bumble specifically. Less potential bombardment seemed to create a more slow-paced, thoughtful, selective experience.
I ended up only going on 4 dates from my dating app experimentation, one of whom became my current boyfriend. By "smooth process" in my previous reply I suppose I was mostly thinking about this part. I went into it because I hadn't really dated before. I mostly just wanted to meet interesting people and see what it's like to actually go on a date, not so much for a relationship. There are so many horror stories related to safety, meeting jerks, meeting people who didn't look like their profiles, etc. Everyone I met was luckily a really decent guy and I had no bad dates, even if it didn't go anywhere.