I have no advice, but I sure wish I had your problems.
Ask HN: I’m Lost. Help?
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#12Yeah I felt the same way about 18 months ago. I took a contract gig (hybrid) that pays well, lets me pick up some new skills, but limits me to 40 hours a week, isn't that hard and I'm not emotionally invested since I don't even work for the company. It's been a nice way to get some space and figure out what I actually want
Has it been helpful? Have you figured anything out?
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#13> How do I get back to who I was, in terms of feeling driven to solve problems and make impact? I feel like I’ve lost who I once was and don’t know how to get it back. This is an interesting statement. I feel the same, but I wonder how much of the optimism and motivation I had in my 20s was unfounded and naive, stemming from a lack of experience. Having seen stuff play out multiple cycles has made me more pessimistic…
Fair point, and very interesting. I did pick up fitness as a hobby, but maybe I need to double down on it… or play more ukulele.
Thanks for the advice.
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#14When I feel that I have climbed to the highest peaks and I now stare into the limitless and desolate void, the choice is now whether or not to rejoice in the dance of life.
Many have walked the same road and many plunge into the abyss of despair. For many others, including myself, it's a landmark or the continual scenery.
For me, I don't believe there was a way back. I think it made me a different person. It was and is great, but I am lonelier than ever despite being surrounded by wonderful friends and family. And that is probably for the best. Lonely is probably not the right word for it.
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#15I have no advice, but I sure wish I had your problems.
:(
I really don’t intend this as a brag, I promise. I’m also well aware that there are people struggling with much “worse” issues than me; I grew up with a lot of them, lost multiple friends to suicide, and so forth.
But if there’s anything I’ve learned, it’s that depression and/or unhappiness does not care about your wealth.
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#16I went through some of what you’re writing about: start-up, acquisition, handcuffs, sabbatical-mode, and now newco.
Feel free to email me, happy to chat it through.
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#17When I feel that I have climbed to the highest peaks and I now stare into the limitless and desolate void, the choice is now whether or not to rejoice in the dance of life. Many have walked the same road and many plunge into the abyss of despair. For many others, including myself, it's a landmark or the continual scenery. For me, I don't believe there was a way back. I think it made me a different person. It was and…
Why is it for the best? Lonely feels right, even though by all objective measure I’m definitely not.
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#18I went through some of what you’re writing about: start-up, acquisition, handcuffs, sabbatical-mode, and now newco. Feel free to email me, happy to chat it through.
Thank you! Expect an email in the next day or two. <3
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#19> How do I get back to who I was, in terms of feeling driven to solve problems and make impact? I feel like I’ve lost who I once was and don’t know how to get it back. This is an interesting statement. I feel the same, but I wonder how much of the optimism and motivation I had in my 20s was unfounded and naive, stemming from a lack of experience. Having seen stuff play out multiple cycles has made me more pessimistic…
Fair point, and very interesting. I did pick up fitness as a hobby, but maybe I need to double down on it… or play more ukulele. Thanks for the advice.
Maybe a museum. Anything that resonates with you. You get to choose where to go from where you are.
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#20help me build my business as an mentor/advisor? Not kidding here.