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Follow your passion! I left SF and never looked back. My values maybe different from yours but I refused to buy more taxes than common sense dictates. Especially watching crime and filth level grows in SF and it's surroundings. However again - follow you passion and excitement.
You’re not going to get any answers on HN. Want my advice? Do it. Fuck it.
$15 for a sushi roll? What the …
“ I am still dating and am at a point in my life where this is very important. At a cis male what is the scene like?” Not bad but wayyyyy better in NYC.
> Although I am a techie, I’ve grown away from associating with tech. It’s my 9-5, but afterwards I want to talk about anything else. I do read HN religiously though :)
In my totally honest opinion, if you are shying away from the tech identity, then SF might be a bad choice. The city culture is, these days, totally defined by the tech world. Many people you'll meet there in your age/socioeconomic group will be in tech and more than likely they live and breathe tech.
> Can I find friends here? Make a relationship? Will the insane beauty of twin peaks wear off?
Yes, yes, and yes. I've moved cities a few times, each time stary-eyed and optimistic. The novelties wear off quickly, and when your experience is different than how you imagined life to be shock can even settle in. You'll stop noticing the natural beauty and start resenting things like those "15 dollar sushi rolls", and then the city just becomes like anywhere else. You'll meet friends, develop relationships, settle in and maybe in a few years you'll be asking the same question about Portland or Austin or Istanbul... or maybe you'll settle down and live the rest of your days in Noe valley ;).
Life is uncertain. Have fun.
If or when the magic wears thin, then you'll be free to explore further.
As far as relationships go, as long as you do the things you really enjoy, then you'll meet like-minded people and it is through such people that you meet The One.
Yes, prices are high. As long as you see it as paying for what you get, it should be fine. If you start becoming resentful of it, then it also will be a sign to move on.
Life is short. Do what you love. If you love San Francisco you should live there. Because you're single with no kids I would get a room in a house with others. That way you're not spending all your money on rent.
At this stage in my life I would live alone; it’s true that roommates would make the rent more palatable
Follow your passion! I left SF and never looked back. My values maybe different from yours but I refused to buy more taxes than common sense dictates. Especially watching crime and filth level grows in SF and it's surroundings. However again - follow you passion and excitement.
But maybe look at some other large cities and see if others might be a better fit…and it’s not like you can’t move around every 6-12 months either.
I’m a techie, love visiting the Bay Area, but it’s not for me.
I do love LA for the density of creative folk that live there + weather. NYC is great for having everything at your fingertips, insane diversity in every facet of life, and so many high achieving residents. Chicago has an awesome big city feel, lots of amenities for cheap, but lacks a certain reach to the higher levels and the weather is brutal.
I think most large cities offer a lot for anyone under 45 who isn’t settled and is willing to put in the work to build a life/friend-group. All have trade-offs, just figure out what sounds the best.
You can always do a 180 and head back to where you came from.