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Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

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Post by nvusuvu »

kaskakokos wrote: post #6

I find little meat in life that is offered as standard. I mean: work, produce, consume, agree and enjoy the show (only if you keep dancing and only as long as it lasts). Where is the joy? How much joy am I neglecting to follow standards I have not chosen? I am looking for alternatives such as more dedication to my people, hobbies and joyful knowledge, finding that this has little overlap with the expected way of life…

I find the most joy in meaningful relationships I have fostered with my wife and kids over the last 18 years. That joy is further enrichened and deepened by my unwavering belief in a plan created by God to preserve those relationships after this mortal life. I also find joy when I help other people, recently GED tutoring, bringing meals to those in need, and helping elderly neighbors with yard work.

Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

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Post by throaway888 »

I'm in my early-mid 20's and I feel dispassionate/disinterested doing much other than gaming and consuming content after work. There's no real "community" that I am a part of outside of work.

I'm working on losing weight right now to build confidence and get into more things but until then it's just work -> gaming -> consume content -> sleep -> repeat.

I feel like I need to find something outside work to enrich my life and make new friends...

Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

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Post by Jtsummers »

throaway888 wrote: post #13

I'm in my early-mid 20's and I feel dispassionate/disinterested doing much other than gaming and consuming content after work. There's no real "community" that I am a part of outside of work. I'm working on losing weight right now to build confidence and get into more things but until then it's just work -> gaming -> consume content -> sleep -> repeat. I feel like I need to find something outside work to enrich my li…

That sounds familiar to me. If it weren't for COVID, I'd suggest a similar path to what I took (led to both losing weight and building up a social group) which is to join a team sport. Like a local soccer league, if you're very out of shape take it easy the first season then use the improvements you do see as motivation to continue exercising between seasons.

However, I don't know of any soccer leagues going on that aren't COVID hotbeds. Kickball and softball provide a lot more space between players, but doesn't reach the same activity level. But being in shape helps with both of them and they can both provide good social connections.

I also joined two other groups at about the same time. The area's "Young Professional" group, which was a monthly meetup of professionals aged about 22-35. And a church group (if you're not at all religious this will not be of any interest to you) that was about the same age range and met up twice a month. Through both I found new friends and started doing more things (I actually joined soccer through the friends made at the church group).

However, COVID is messing all of those things up. You can still see if there are groups that are meeting and join them so long as they're being reasonably cautious and meet your personal safety threshold.

Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

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Post by Jtsummers »

rocketpastsix wrote: post #8

Keeping my weight under control. I've gained 20 pounds over the last year. It doesn't help that I bought a stand mixer and love baking. Cycling alone doesn't seem to keep things under control. I either need to do bigger riders or supplement it. The one good thing is my eating out has been drastically cut. But there is still work to be done there.

If you're teleworking, it won't necessarily cause you to lose weight but it will change the weight you carry: I started doing hourly exercises. Just squats, pushups, rows (I have a TRX), and dips. All bodyweight, easy to do at home (harder in the office if you're in a shared space, but you could always take an hourly break to walk somewhere better than the desk and do this, only takes a couple minutes). Paired with running, I trimmed down a lot during the summer (then two injuries related to neither running nor this exercising stalled me).

I also enjoy baking and picked it up a few years ago. But I didn't gain any weight because I'd take almost everything to the office or parties. Neither of which are really options for me right now so I avoid it, or occasionally give something to the neighbors I do like.

Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

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Post by giantg2 »

throaway888 wrote: post #13

I'm in my early-mid 20's and I feel dispassionate/disinterested doing much other than gaming and consuming content after work. There's no real "community" that I am a part of outside of work. I'm working on losing weight right now to build confidence and get into more things but until then it's just work -> gaming -> consume content -> sleep -> repeat. I feel like I need to find something outside work to enrich my li…

One thing that came to mind for me is mushrooming. You can usually find a local mycological club to go foraging with. You don't even have to eat the mushrooms if you don't want to. You can go and learn about finding them, cooking them, interesting forms/traits, etc. It's a great way to have a common interest and get out hiking with a purpose. Being outdoors is also a great low risk (from a covid perspective) way to gather with others. The only downside right now is that, depending on your location, winter doesn't offer as many foraging opportunities as the other seasons.

Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

#18

Post by giantg2 »

nvusuvu wrote: post #11
kaskakokos wrote: post #6

I find little meat in life that is offered as standard. I mean: work, produce, consume, agree and enjoy the show (only if you keep dancing and only as long as it lasts). Where is the joy? How much joy am I neglecting to follow standards I have not chosen? I am looking for alternatives such as more dedication to my people, hobbies and joyful knowledge, finding that this has little overlap with the expected way of life…

I find the most joy in meaningful relationships I have fostered with my wife and kids over the last 18 years. That joy is further enrichened and deepened by my unwavering belief in a plan created by God to preserve those relationships after this mortal life. I also find joy when I help other people, recently GED tutoring, bringing meals to those in need, and helping elderly neighbors with yard work.

I hope my family becomes a source of joy. The responsibility of supporting them is crushing right now.

Re: Ask HN: What is your biggest problem?

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Post by throaway888 »

Jtsummers wrote: post #15
throaway888 wrote: post #13

I'm in my early-mid 20's and I feel dispassionate/disinterested doing much other than gaming and consuming content after work. There's no real "community" that I am a part of outside of work. I'm working on losing weight right now to build confidence and get into more things but until then it's just work -> gaming -> consume content -> sleep -> repeat. I feel like I need to find something outside work to enrich my li…

That sounds familiar to me. If it weren't for COVID, I'd suggest a similar path to what I took (led to both losing weight and building up a social group) which is to join a team sport. Like a local soccer league, if you're very out of shape take it easy the first season then use the improvements you do see as motivation to continue exercising between seasons. However, I don't know of any soccer leagues going on that…

Thanks for the advice! I like a lot of the ideas you gave. I hope things go well for you to!
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