Try to eat well. I had no 'dietary education' from my family (basically it was an "eat what you like, when you like") and at 44 I fiscally felt so bad that I went to my doctor saying "I need to be checked as I think I have something really bad". I went through a number of checks and I was fine. This was also worsened as I am not obese, so I did not connect in a first instance my feeling bad with my eating habits.
I decided to loose some weight and I put myself on a quite silly diet since few months now. I am eating mon-fri one time every 24 hours. Basically I have a meal a day (a dinner) and any junk food or sweet has been banned. I have lost weight (and I'm still loosing about 800/1000 grams per week) and I feel great now.
My second advice is to pick a job which aligns with the things you enjoy doing. This will not necessarily lead to money, but still you will enjoy it. Consider we work the majority of our time.
Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
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Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#12Don’t give too much of your life to trying to control (ie politics, other people...). How to do this is of course hard. Meditation helps me. Relationships. Balancing my consumption of news. Staying away from histrionic people that drive that anxiety (read Twitter). Taking a break from that which bothers me (developing hobbies and other interests). Even as I get older I increasingly have a sense that all attempts to c…
The twitter & politics seem so true. This is a little goofy but I’ve gone to lengths like journaling my mood to “prove” the wisdom of this for me, but old habits yadda yadda. Do you remember any kind of “inflection point”, was it a habit you broke or a natural proclivity or “aha” moment? I’m interested in the sausage-making of how people acquire this wisdom :-).
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#13Don’t give too much of your life to trying to control (ie politics, other people...). How to do this is of course hard. Meditation helps me. Relationships. Balancing my consumption of news. Staying away from histrionic people that drive that anxiety (read Twitter). Taking a break from that which bothers me (developing hobbies and other interests). Even as I get older I increasingly have a sense that all attempts to c…
> Even as I get older I increasingly have a sense that all attempts to control will be resisted by others.
You sound like a crazy person. Have you been diagnosed with NPD?
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#14When I was younger, I could skip most of the homework because I learned enough during class. The mandatory assignments were sometimes finished quickly just before I had to turn them in.
I didn't get the necessary practice and discipline to do independent work unless I did it for fun. This had to be learned the hard way when I grew older.
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#15Try to eat well. I had no 'dietary education' from my family (basically it was an "eat what you like, when you like") and at 44 I fiscally felt so bad that I went to my doctor saying "I need to be checked as I think I have something really bad". I went through a number of checks and I was fine. This was also worsened as I am not obese, so I did not connect in a first instance my feeling bad with my eating habits. I d…
> I am eating mon-fri one time every 24 hours.
That is not a good idea. Eat at least twice per day to moderate insulin and other hormones.
The best advice I've seen is, "Eat what your grandmother ate."
Then avoid HFCS, and you're good.
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#16Don’t give too much of your life to trying to control (ie politics, other people...). How to do this is of course hard. Meditation helps me. Relationships. Balancing my consumption of news. Staying away from histrionic people that drive that anxiety (read Twitter). Taking a break from that which bothers me (developing hobbies and other interests). Even as I get older I increasingly have a sense that all attempts to c…
“Paradoxically by being silent I have the biggest impact.” The impact may not always be positive. In some cases you are uniquely situated to lead, and by turning the opportunity down you create a vacuum for a less savory character to take place and inflict pain onto others.
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Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#17Older people THINK they can remember what it was like to be young.
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#18I've posted about this many times here and so have a lot of other people: If you're suffering from any chronic aches or pains especially back pain or RSI it may be TMS (though only a doctor can tell you that but you need to be informed).
The internet and medical community is full of misinformed people who will fill your head about how a pinched nerve or a slipped disc can cause you immense pain and some doctor may even put you under the knife. But at least read about TMS before you do something drastic.
See tmswiki.org (not my site) for hundreds and thousands of people who have recovered from decades of back pain after spending hundreds and thousands of dollars but never realized it could be simple TMS which doesn't cost a dime to fix.
I'm amongst one of these people and after nearly suffering for many many years did someone on hacker news posted about it and that comment changed my life literally. Pain is all I could think about back then and it interfered with my work, relationships, life. Just reading Sarnos book got me halfway there. Then daily exercises and watching hundreds of testimonials on YouTube made by common people helped me more.
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#19Don’t give too much of your life to trying to control (ie politics, other people...). How to do this is of course hard. Meditation helps me. Relationships. Balancing my consumption of news. Staying away from histrionic people that drive that anxiety (read Twitter). Taking a break from that which bothers me (developing hobbies and other interests). Even as I get older I increasingly have a sense that all attempts to c…
“Paradoxically by being silent I have the biggest impact.” The impact may not always be positive. In some cases you are uniquely situated to lead, and by turning the opportunity down you create a vacuum for a less savory character to take place and inflict pain onto others.
This is true, though in many cases it's like 80-90% lead by following (w/ great people). 10-20% have a deft touch and show/create vision out of the team's raw material of ideas and inspiration
Re: Ask HN: What is it like to be old? What advice would you give to younger people?
#20Don’t give too much of your life to trying to control (ie politics, other people...). How to do this is of course hard. Meditation helps me. Relationships. Balancing my consumption of news. Staying away from histrionic people that drive that anxiety (read Twitter). Taking a break from that which bothers me (developing hobbies and other interests). Even as I get older I increasingly have a sense that all attempts to c…
The twitter & politics seem so true. This is a little goofy but I’ve gone to lengths like journaling my mood to “prove” the wisdom of this for me, but old habits yadda yadda. Do you remember any kind of “inflection point”, was it a habit you broke or a natural proclivity or “aha” moment? I’m interested in the sausage-making of how people acquire this wisdom :-).
The 2016 US election and me pouring endless energy into Twitter arguments with Trump supporters.
Eventually too I read a lot of History about divisive times, and it showed me a lot of tragedy, much worse than what we're experiencing now. But also bounce back from that tragedy. You learn through life (and History) that Politics is relentlessly cyclical. Those that attempt control, even well intentioned, are ultimately resisted and replaced by the next regime that tries to take control, on and on...
That's not to say I don't vote. And I think you could meaningfully participate in the Political process out of a sense of duty or service. Like actually volunteering for a cause, etc you believe in. But don't waste your precious time on Twitter on Cable News outrage cycles that’ll just make you mad with zero impact on anything
I wrote an article on this: https://softwaredoug.com/blog/2020/08/06/political-twitter-o...