Ask HN: What Skills to Acquire in 2020?

Introspection, communication, soft skills

deadlift's are quite dangerous for the untrained.

Start with "Fix Rounded Shoulders" and "Fix Anterior Pelvic Tilt" if you have not already done so. Plenty of great advice on YouTube on those topics.

The ability to be true to yourself in social interactions! youtube.com/c/socialanimal

The ability to be true to yourself in social situations!

-> https://www.youtube.com/c/socialanimal

We are surrounded by opportunities for real human connections

Every day, we go through dozens of situations that encourage light, authentic interactions with the people around us.

All these moments when someone is next to you, and YOU feel like you want to interact… but you don’t

…you are working at coffee shop and there someone next to you. You share a smile, you look at each other a few times, you want to say something… but instead you convince yourself that you are too busy and leave wondering what if…

…you are standing in line, someone in front of you looks cool, you like their vibe, you could give them a compliment but you are not sure, what are they gonna think, whats the point anyway… whatever…

…you go out to a bar to meet people. They are people all around you, you feel tonight could be fun but instead you order a drink and talk to you friends all night…

Opportunities are all around us, but instead of diving into the moment, we hesitate…

We second guess ourselves and overthink our intentions until before we know it, the moment passes us by.

Maybe we make up an excuse why it didn’t happen, or maybe we just accept the fact that we are just not “that kind of person”

Either way, we censor ourselves, a moment here, a moment there, constantly moving further away from the connections we so desperately crave and building comfort on the sidelines of the life we could have.

These interactions could lead to our next friendship, job or romantic encounter but the most important realization is that its not about the outcome, it’s about you.

The real question is who would you be today if you had gone for it even half the time in the last few years? What you lose is not only the moment and the potential connection, but the personal evolution that this moment would have brought you.

We are so focused on the outcome that we forget the initial intent of expression, the desire to say something, we forget about the process…

I used to judge my interaction on the outcome, I made a friends, I got her number, I went on a date etc… until I realized all this is irrelevant.

The only question that matter is: “Did I express myself or did I censor myself”

Why?

Because overtime, being committed to expressing yourself will simply give you more experience.

You’ll be more comfortable expressing your truth, you’ll meet more people, you’ll just have so much more experience which will impact how you relate to people, how you express yourself… which in turn impact your new interactions.

I realized that I should be able to talk to anyone with the same ease and presence I have when I am with my best friends.

All the frictions you can experience are just opportunities to better understand yourself and your perception.

Interacting with people is first and foremost about you. It’s about expressing yourself, the rest takes care of itself.

The only thing you need is to let your true self shine through. That’s what people want to see, and it’s the only way find real people to share your life with.

-> https://www.youtube.com/c/socialanimal

Learn a another human language. You don’t have to be good at it or even able to converse. Languages are systems of thinking as much as they are systems of communication. Some thoughts only make sense in a given language! The process of learning a language builds cognitive skills and perhaps fights cognitive decline. If you have absolutely no “ear” for human language start with Esperanto and work your way to additional languages from there.