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Re: Ask HN: What made you decide to marry your spouse?

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Post by chrisbennet »

rocannon wrote: post #7
chrisbennet wrote: post #4

After a 22 year trial period, we married for insurance purposes.

Having lived through my parents' unhappy marriage, I'm strongly resistant to getting married. However, my current partner has better retirement benefits than I do (both Social Security and pension benefits). I recently joked with him that we should marry so that I inherit his benefits should he kick off before I do. That would be an unpleasant reason to get married. Regarding health insurance, currently it looks like…

We got married before Obamacare so she needed to get on my insurance.

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Post by ladytron »

He didn't run away when he saw I was reading a nerdy book. Instead, he approached me. Is that your book? He liked my brain.

I knew it was time to get married about a week after we met. Everyone else paled in comparison. It took another 6 months to make it official - but I was really married in my own mind after that first week together.

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Post by jotux »

NumberCruncher wrote: post #11
chrisbennet wrote: post #4

After a 22 year trial period, we married for insurance purposes.

Insurance & tax purposes, best reasons ever. Some relationships do not need a written contract.

Getting married for taxes/insurance/power-of-attorney/etc is at least a tangible benefit that can be shared and appreciated between two people. So many people get married simply because they used to like each other, are afraid of any change, and buckle to overwhelming social pressure.

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Post by iharhajster »

Her love for me and she didn't go away when I told her I battled psychological disorder (anxiety and depression) in the past. She was the person I could talk any topic with her and she was always on the money with her insightful advice. And she didn't drink alcohol, nor smoke, which is hard to find around here. She was religous and sang in church choir. Since I had a lot of bad experiances with girls in the past, mostly on my part, when I met her I told myself, this time go slow but smart. And it's been best last 7 yrs of my life. We are married for 2 years and when we felt we matured enough to take full responsibility over our lives that was the decision moment to get married.

Re: Ask HN: What made you decide to marry your spouse?

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Post by throway_bayarea »

Step 1: If your girlfriend is also your best friend then move to step 2.

Step 2: if you both want kids then move to step 3.

Step 3: If you want to protect your assests against your best friend with whom you want to build a family, go ahead and setup a prenup. Though, you might get stuck at that step because you'd put your money or your career first then your wife (best friend and mother of your kids) second. Why not? It's totally possible. Thought, I would NOT recommend a marriage in this case because it doesn't make any sense.

Step 4: let's say you skipped step 3 and made it to step 4. At this stage, you can pop the question, it makes sense.

Congrats.

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Post by olivercreashe »

ladytron wrote: post #14

He didn't run away when he saw I was reading a nerdy book. Instead, he approached me. Is that your book? He liked my brain. I knew it was time to get married about a week after we met. Everyone else paled in comparison. It took another 6 months to make it official - but I was really married in my own mind after that first week together.

>> He liked my brain.

Hahahaha. So creepy.

"Hey, I like your brain."

Or better yet: "hey, i can tell ur the one for me cuz i like your mucus."

Hahahahah

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