Ask HN: How life changes after being a dad?

Congratulations!

Sleep now, because the next 18 years are difficult. :)

congratulations! I have 3 children, now 11, 13, 17.

So older, but they still have activities and schedules. I tend to stay up a bit later than my wife to be able to spend time on coding. I also try and set aside 2-3 weekend days a month to dedicated, don't interrupt me coding. Then I fill in the gaps and spend time as I can.

Laptop and earbuds are helpful to me.

My friend Julie told me, "for the next year, you are number three, unless you have a dog, then you are number four." While that turned out to be true...except that I had two dogs at the time...the way I like to describe it is that the mother goes through a series of continuous changes, but for the father it's like standing on the tracks watching the freight train coming: I knew everything was going to change, but it all happened at once.

Congratulations. Being a dad is amazingly wonderful and only gets better over the years, and if you do everything right your child will move away and you'll miss their awesomeness deep down in your soul.

Good luck.

Yesterday I was reading something like "first to years as parents are hard coz you will have less sleep". For me which already started, as my spouse is going through morning sickness and so on. But 18 years would be too much!

Congratulations!

My wife and I have 2 year old twins. The next 2 years might be a little rough, depending on your relationship with your wife and the expectations you each have of each other. Because there were 2 babies each with different schedules and needs, we didn't get much sleep for the first 10 months. There was a lot emotional and physical challenges. That said, there are two of you so give each other a break every so often. Maintain your relationships and hobbies.