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Ask HN: How to stop dreaming about working in other fields?

#1
I have severe FOMO or ‘grass is greener’ issues in that I have a well paid, fairly easy job, but I keep dreaming about working in other fields. I’ve been a Developer, and now Software Sales Engineer (still coding a lot), for 10 years.

I keep dreaming about going to school again for Physics or ‘real’ engineering (Mech, EE, etc.) and working on cars, planes, ships. I have friends who went that route and work on really cool things but they keep saying they did CS due to how easy and flexible of a life it gives.

Any tips to get my mind out of this and just be happy with my life?

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#2
If you’ve been in software dev for so long (for me 20 years) - things start to get easy so you need more of a challenge.

Maybe your dreaming is a longing for novelty that will satisfy your hungry curiosity?

You could choose one of those fields that interests you and then learn some aspects of it?

Or write some software for it? Or some simulations of it, that sort of thing

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#4
Identify the difference between dreaming (plausible things) and fantasizing (implausible things). Make a decision about what your imagination is providing to you and that categorization process may relieve you of spending cycles on the thing that won’t happen and which largely functions as a way to keep yourself burdened.

It’s also okay to have a mental funeral for a long-standing dream which is now an unsatisfactory, or not necessary, fantasy. Some thoughts / dreams / imagined paths can become whispers in the mind. And gone.

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#5
Go find the HN equivalent of physics or "real" engineering and listen to people complain about their work? /s

Or just use your current skillset to work together with others on side projects or simulations related to those areas?

Eg. I am a programmer, but I love fighter jets, missiles, guided bombs and such. I will never get a job in those fields, can't pursue war and destruction as a hobby, so I do things like learn how missile/bomb guidance systems work - laser, GPS, radiation, heat seeking, etc and try to build mini, super low fidelity versions of those systems in my spare time. Think off the shelf microcontrollers and components on model rockets and projectiles dropped from consumer drones...

This has sort of scratched my itch for these things...see if you can find something similar that works for you?

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#6
Feel the same sometimes. However, I'm wondering if that isn't just a "the grass is always greener on the other side" kind of problem. Have you considered starting doing something in these fields as a hobby instead? Have always liked working with CS and EE, but after starting to work with it, it sometimes feels like it's becoming more of a chore than something fun.

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#8
If you’re willing to go to where the jobs are and, perhaps, take a pay cut you can contribute software engineering or UI expertise to many stem projects. There’s a number of little companies doing such work and they have domain knowledge in spades. What they probably don’t have or have enough of is how to make modern, robust, maintainable software. Particularly user facing software. Things like ai or modelling applied to medicine, material design, etc.

You won’t sell ads or collect data. It’s probably licensed code and it helps people make stuff.

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#9
For a given field that I daydream about, I visit the subreddit dedicated to that profession. Especially given the rise in r/antiwork-like sentiment over the past few years, what I've noticed from many of these profession-specific subreddits is that many of the most popular posts from the last 2-3 years consist of people posting grievances about their field. Through reading about the most negative, stressful, and irrational aspects of a given profession, you defintely end up seeing that grass isn't necessarily greener in many cases.

While I realize that people who like their jobs likely won't make posts on Reddit to rave about their respective position, and that a subreddit is likely to attract people who want a place to vent (just as people are more likely to post online reviews about a business given a negative experience rather than a positive one), through reading about realities that many people face, I quickly realize it's not all roses & sunshine on the other side of the grass and each field comes with its own set of frustrating challenges.

What I do is may be a cynical way of looking at things, but especially if you currently have a well-paid, fairly comfortable position, you shouldn't take your current standing for granted, and realize that there are loads of people in other fields who'd rather be in your shoes.

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#10

Go find the HN equivalent of physics or "real" engineering and listen to people complain about their work? /s Or just use your current skillset to work together with others on side projects or simulations related to those areas? Eg. I am a programmer, but I love fighter jets, missiles, guided bombs and such. I will never get a job in those fields, can't pursue war and destruction as a hobby, so I do things like learn…

>HN equivalent of physics or "real" engineering

Where's that? :D

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