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Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

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Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

#1
Hey HN. I'm in a little pickle regarding my career and life choices and I'm not too sure what to do. I'd like to get some advice or perspective from others here. During my teenage years I worked fast-food/retail, with a bit of odd manual labor mixed in here and there. Then I joined the military and worked a physically demanding job while active duty. I did that for 4 years, all the while teaching myself to code with the primary motivation of being able to attain a lucrative job and build a respectable career for myself down the road. Upon separating from the military, I attained said job.

At first, I was thrilled. I do enjoy coding to an extent, and thought that this was my "big break". But after doing it for 8 hours a day, 5 days a week, I've come to realize that I don't enjoy it all that much after all. It was an escape after a hard days work. It was a way for me to relax. But sitting down, alone, in front of a computer screen all day every day is slowly driving me mad. My mental health is slowly getting worse and I've come to realize that I need some amount of human interaction and, more importantly, some amount of movement and physical activity. I don't believe it's my company, coworkers, or manager that makes me dislike my work. The problems I solve are interesting, my manager is truly incredible, and my coworker are all kind, encouraging, and helpful. It's simply the nature of the job, I'm certain I'd feel similar with almost any desk job where I toil in front of a screen day in and day out. I just didn't realize it as I'd never really had a truly white collar job prior. I also should note that I don't try to derive meaning or fulfillment solely from my employment. I go to the gym, I train MMA, I even dabble in stand-up comedy (though public speaking certainly is not my forte). All that to say, I don't expect to be 100% fulfilled from any job, but I just can't handle the 40+ hours a week of complete inactivity and nearly complete isolation.

I have the GI Bill, which grants me 4 free years of tuition at any public university in the country. I'm strongly considering quitting and using it. The only thing holding me back is that I have no idea whatsoever what I could do that I actually would enjoy and would meet my physical and social needs without overloading them. Too much socialization or physical activity for me is almost as bad as none whatsoever. I've come to terms with the fact that I'll almost certainly have to take a pay cut, and that's okay. I'm willing to earn less in exchange for my mental health, but only to a point. The ratio of income lost to happiness gained should be at least roughly equal.

I'm blessed to have the opportunity, time, and means to drastically alter my career path in my early-mid 20's but at the same time I'm overwhelmed with options. And I fear choosing the wrong one as I don't want to be in this same position 4 years from now.

I've tried introspecting and narrowing down my options based on my interests, but I can't think of a single career I'd like to actually make out of my interests. Working out and MMA isn't something I would want to make a career out of as it's just a way to blow off steam, and I don't have the desire to do stand-up comedy professionally. The only other interest I've had over the past ~5 years has been programming. Which I do enjoy, just not enough. Aptitude isn't a concern. At the risk of sounding arrogant, I'm certain that I could perform well doing whatever I decide, so long as the interest is there. I'm hoping that just maybe there's some perfect career path out there that I just haven't heard of or thought about yet.

After that novella, I open the floor to you. What are some good options for me to consider? What would you do if you were in my situation? Is there anything else I haven't thought of?

Thanks if you've taken the time to read this, doubly so if you then take the time to write a response. I look forward to hearing from all of you.

Re: Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

#3

Do not worry. You are self taught by others through their work. Everything we use is made by someone else, you just trained yourself because you could not find a mentor, so you found many. Good luck.

I suggest TIS-100 to learn coding again and to make it more fun. Coding is a lot of fun, and the language in that game is great.

https://www.zachtronics.com/tis-100/

Re: Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

#4
> which grants me 4 free years of tuition at any public university in the country

I would consider using it. That would put you around a lot of people on a regular basis that are younger than you that can learn from your experience. More connections is a good thing. You don't really know your co-workers. That is why they are great but they ARENT KEEPING YOU HAPPY.

If you have enough resources to survive, I suggest going back to university.

Re: Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

#5
We've all been there. By all means, take advantage of the GI bill, at least for a couple of years, while you are figuring this out. But I'm afraid you'll find that no matter what career you choose, you'll eventually end up feeling this way at some point.

The coding jobs I've had which I enjoyed the most was where I had a good team which was in competition with another good team, either at the same company or at different companies. Think how boring football would be without the element of competition. If they payed you to just carry a football up and down the field for 8 hours a day, how boring would that be?

Get some frenemies :-)

Re: Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

#6
Tough one, I feel you.

Maybe pivot into IT work that involves more physical activities and social factors? Network engineering possibly? I imagine they move around more. Or ethical hacking. It sometimes includes physical pentests and social engineering. Maybe even IT management? Use that study voucher for it and return as the boss of geeks.

Being able to code is quite valuable so I would look into leveraging that.

If you're earning well right now maybe take some of that money and pay someone to help. People who know what kind of jobs are out there. Get a full assessment of your personality and skills. Are there agencies for this? Just spitballing here.

Lastly, try and see whether you already know deep down what you _really_ want but are too afraid to admit to yourself. That happens a lot.

I don't work in tech btw, so I have no idea what I'm talking about. Just a brainstorming session.

Re: Ask HN: I achieved my dream of being a self-taught dev. I hate it. Now what?

#9
Possible options if you want something more physical:

- A trade/construction job

- Engineer

- Vehicle Mechanic

- Pilot

- Diver

- Coastguard

- Firefighter

- Outdoor activities instructor

- Physical therapist

- Driving/motorcycle instructor

Also, if you don’t want to be a stand up or a PT have you thought about becoming a comedy club owner or gym owner?

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