Always curious about these things, because I think too much about how to think, what to think, how best to be etc... it can be in any domain, no matter how small, if it made a difference to you, i'm curious, how/why.
Ask HN: What mindset change made the biggest positive change for you?
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#2Taking extreme personal responsibility for any consequence even things usually deemed outside one’s control.
Understanding that there’s no known limit to one human’s potential positive impact over one lifetime.
Re: Ask HN: What mindset change made the biggest positive change for you?
#3Gratitude.
Whenever I'm feeling down or off, if I can remember to begin enumerating all the people and aspects of my life I'm grateful for, it has a tremendous and powerful positive effect.
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#4There are a lot of important lessons.
Focus on one thing at a time and finish it.
Sleep matters
It's nearly impossible to fail out of tech; we're made. We'll all retire just fine. So why worry?
Life is for the living
Love and compassion is what gives meaning
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#5Realizing no one is going to make your life better. Everyone is dealing with their own stuff and waiting on anyone else to do things for you is a poor life strategy. You have to take control of your own life and stop blaming others for your problems. Life is long and there is plenty of time to work on yourself - living as a miserable person full of hatred, jealousy, and regret is terrible. You need to have an optimistic attitude and make changes every single day to improve your situation.
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#6Get Stoic. I remember the day where I had a long travel and laptop and the Seneca's letters opened on it. I arrived being absolutely happy person because I learned the wisest religion/philosophy/livestyle possible. So simple to understand any branch of philosophy now - I just compare it with the Stoic mind and easily decide is it good for me or bad for me.
Re: Ask HN: What mindset change made the biggest positive change for you?
#7Realization that I'm not thinking but I'm being thought. That a lot of my thoughts are on autopilot. If you consciously remind yourself this you will keep most of suffering at bay. Even little things like slight irritation.
Do whatever useful thinking you want consciously and whenever you are aware that your mind is wandering, just notice it. I agree it is easier said that done and it needs practice
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#8That I should stop being concerned with people who don’t give a shit if I live or die. That impressing “cool” people is childish and instead to find the genuine people who care about me and invest in those relationships.
I used to be in a social circle that felt cliquey and revolving around status, and would have panic attacks because I never felt emotionally safe and never felt like I had a true loving base.
Once I made a point to be positive, polite, respect boundaries and ignore trying to be something I’m not, I became a more empathetic, optimistic, and fun person.
I put out good energy, appreciate those who return it, and don’t sweat those who don’t.
Getting older was a big part of it and surrounding myself with people who value hard work and empathy.
Re: Ask HN: What mindset change made the biggest positive change for you?
#9Gratitude. Whenever I'm feeling down or off, if I can remember to begin enumerating all the people and aspects of my life I'm grateful for, it has a tremendous and powerful positive effect.
Yes. Giving the love back I’m given is the greatest feeling.
Re: Ask HN: What mindset change made the biggest positive change for you?
#10Get Stoic. I remember the day where I had a long travel and laptop and the Seneca's letters opened on it. I arrived being absolutely happy person because I learned the wisest religion/philosophy/livestyle possible. So simple to understand any branch of philosophy now - I just compare it with the Stoic mind and easily decide is it good for me or bad for me.
Can you expand on this? What about Stoicism specifically resonated with you? How has it changed your attitudes and ideas?