I am constantly worried that (1) I'm missing out on things, (2) something bad is going to happen and (3) can't see the point of it all since one day all will come to an end. I want to start enjoying and living a happy life. What are some steps I could take to achieve that?
Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
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Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#2Try this: when you feel (1) or (2), turn to (3) to rationalize why you shouldn’t. The trick is keeping (3) at bay during all other times by identifying the things that you do enjoy in life - however insignificant they may seem - and take steps to do them more frequently and with greater depth.
Please reach out to me (same username on Twitter) if (3) ever gets out of hand or if you have any questions about my suggested steps.
Have a great day and I hope others chime in with some actionable steps, too.
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#3I'd recommend trying daily meditation for a couple weeks, see if it helps you. Otherwise check in with your doctor, you could have anxiety. It's normal to have these feelings every now and then. It's not normal to feel like that all the time.
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#4Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#5https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=iEIqVq7EZqE
Wow.
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#6https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYi5aW1GdUU
take everyday as it comes.
You will miss out, something bad is going to happened.
The aim is to enjoy life while you still got it.
Try to go out and enjoy the little things of life, a chat with a friend/family, a hot drink, a nice shower, a sunrise! Hope you get to feel better
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#7Drugs work.
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#8This is a silly little mindgame but it really does help with worry and stress. You basically flip all worst-case scenarios on their head to see the advantages of whatever situation you're in.
Good Game: Good! Now I can ....
Eg. My husband is divorcing me. Good! Now I can find someone who loves me deeply and doesn't leave ice cream containers composting on his desk.
My upstairs neighbors are hella loud and annoying. Good! Now I can spend more time visiting family, out and about with friends and at the gym getting ripped.
My research study failed. Good! Now I can devote my extra time to writing up another protocol and considering what else I want to work on.
A massive pandemic has me working from home and not leaving the house. Good! Now I can read all those books I've been wanting to get to and haven't had the chance.
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#9Drugs work.
Until they don't.
Re: Ask HN: How can I stop worrying and start living?
#10I'd recommend trying daily meditation for a couple weeks, see if it helps you. Otherwise check in with your doctor, you could have anxiety. It's normal to have these feelings every now and then. It's not normal to feel like that all the time.
Yes, do give it a try. You might try the Zencast podcast (free, I am not associated). Just to name a topic, you could give the series on introduction to mindfulness meditation a try.
And, perhaps a chat with your doctor is a good idea in any event.
Good for you for thinking how to work for the better.