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Hi, what do you mean by that?

I've encountered my fair share of such people and I probably was one of them for at least some portion of my own career :( Is there anything in particular that worked for you?

That's indeed challenging. Is there anything specific that helped you do the untangling? And on the company front - how do you stay in touch with the overall direction while minimi…

That's super interesting. How do you go about increasing that consistency?

I'm sorry you've had such a bad experience with managers. I can assure you it looks much different in my neck of the woods.

Hello HN, as an Engineering Manager I frequently find myself supporting engineers who become leaders of one kind or another. If you're an engineer who has recently become a leader …

Still no silver bullets, but the next best thing is an easy to remember framework that can remind you to take care of what needs taking care of.

Engineering is a team sport and leadership is a major dynamic necessary for groups to get stuff done together. What was your biggest leadership challenge of your entire career? How…

Here's one that copies directly into your clipboard: http://michalparkola.com/roam-bookmarklet

I think this perspective/skill is extremely powerful. It is also extremely hard. I try to repeat to myself "find something to agree with" whenever I encounter a difficult situation…

"Logic is not a great tool for understanding reality" as my mother used to say ;) Another way to look at it is that there's always a perfectly good reason _from a certain perspecti…

I agree! ;) I try to make it more meaningful by saying why I agree with or like something in order to clarify the (prefferably shared) values behind my appreciation. I've also rece…

I struggle with this as well as I read many warnings against deriving self-worth from external sources. However I am not free from that and I don't think I'll ever be. I draw the l…

It was and still is hard for me as well. I tend to get emotionally involved with whatever job I do and the people I work with and that sometimes creates friction with people who pr…

I found NVC super valuable for opening my eyes to new concepts but challenging to implement in real life. When I tried it for the first time the other person got super angry becaus…

I love the 7 habits. I aspire to implement them as a basic OS for everything I do.

Not sure if it's possible during an interview (the same way typical interviews suck at predicting the job performance of the employee) but I heard someone suggest using the questio…

For the past several years I've been putting in a lot of time into learning and sharing people skills (without the bullshit). I'm interested in skills from dealing with your own em…