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Yeah, HR cannot help you be a better manager, especially considering many of the worst managers and experiences people have at their companies involve HR. Those training sessions a…

Yeah, certainly consequences matter. The more they have to change or else X (which they really don't want), the more likely they are to change. That said, unfortunately, many will …

It's certainly a two way street between a manager and team member to work well together, but in my experience the best managers in Silicon Valley/tech retain great people for a lon…

Totally agree. Trying to lead clubs and student groups in college taught me more about leading than anything I did in a classroom.

If you're doing it right as a manager, it's not about authority. Instead, you should be working to align interests and support your team. Having someone younger than you as a manag…

Knowing what to do is a hugely uphill battle on its own, but then actually being brave and making the time to have the necessary discussions with your team is another level. Many m…

This^. Well said.

Certainly finance has its own terrible reputation and problems, but that does not absolve Silicon Valley / Tech companies from doing better. They absolutely have the knowledge, fun…

The reason the Valley is different is because if you have 35% turnover at most companies, you're out of business. In Silicon Valley, you can hide it behind more recruiters and fund…

I appreciate the skepticism, but that's a very fixed mindset. People can absolutely change and I've seen it hundreds of times. It certainly can take a "come to Jesus" moment like y…

A lot of employees either A) don't know what to talk about or B) aren't sure what their current manager considers safe topics. Questions like the above (though not all of them) can…

Getlighthouse.com can help you run your 1 on 1s and access questions like these with your notes.

Why do you think they hate it?

Your 1 on 1s are going to evolve over time with them. At the start you want to simply build some rapport and get a feel for their work style. Ask them about how they prefer certain…

1 on 1s as status updates are horribly inefficient, which is why managers should not use their 1 on 1s for them. However, when a manager uses 1 on 1s for what they're actually for …

Why do you have a hard time sticking to it? What do you end up doing instead?

This is awesome. I bet your team really loves working with you.

You may find this helpful too then for you to get started on them and see where you may want to learn more deeply: https://getlighthouse.com/blog/one-on-one-meetings-template-...

Can't you give most of those status update-y things another way? Seems like most of that would be covered in a standup, or email. Your 1 on 1 could be so much more: your career gro…

From Creativity Inc, by Pixar cofounder Ed Catmull: “My door had always been open! I’d assumed that that would guarantee me a place in the loop, at least when it came to major sour…

That's really unfortunate. They can be incredible meetings to fix problems, work on your career, grow skills, give and receive feedback, and a lot more. Unfortunately though a lot …

This is really good advice ^ Measured, and with good variation.