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Positive, but every situation is unique. You're welcome to send me an email if you've got specific questions.

You're feeling what you're feeling because you're trying to treat your mental health issues yourself, and your mental health issues are interfering with your attempt at treatment. …

I've used https://www.usglobalmail.com/ for years. You could always forward your mail to a friend or relative, which I've also done, but whatever you do, get an address in a state …

The problem that I have with scooters is that I can't push my baby's stroller down the street five blocks without running into one left flopped in the middle of the sidewalk. I can…

I would spend all day every day hanging out with and taking care of my baby boy - pretty much what I do now, but with a lot more poignancy.

While good advice in general, I'm not sure this applies in the Portland restaurant market. Renard was pretty boring - good French food, but the same food you've eaten at a dozen ot…

I'm guessing you just don't follow local restaurant news (Renard's opening got quite of coverage because it was in St. Jack's old space) or live in that neighborhood. Portland's a …

Human behavior being what it is, I don't know why we'd be surprised when people who know the pain of rejection are happy to inflict that pain on others.

Reach out, either through a respected intermediary or directly, to CEOs of companies that are about to need executives but haven’t made a bunch of external executive hires yet. Get…

It’s usually because not doing the task has very real negative consequences and due to the sexist nature of modern society the consequences fall most heavily on Alice, not on Bob. …

Judging by the remarks on this thread, not many of you are interested - but those of you who are may find this compiled PDF of a Metafilter thread valuable: https://drive.google.co…

In my experience communication happens again and again and again over a period of years until the woman gives up in exasperation and just seethes silently. It's hard to get someone…

Differentiating hyperbole from actual Nazis is pretty trivial.

Slippery slope arguments like the one in the article are so tiresome. It's perfectly possible to deny service to Nazis without it snowballing into a problem for the rest of society…

Yes, it would be nice to see the raw data, but note that they've bucketed Level 1 through Level 6 employees, and have still found gender discrepancies. Are you suggesting that diff…

This entire thread is a great example of how many if not most Canadians will passionately defend any old goofy policy, as long as it's different from how the Americans do it. I've …

You know how sometimes when you're looking at an old codebase, where all the developers who've written it have moved on to other jobs, you see a little bit of code that doesn't see…

As a Canadian citizen married to an American - would voluntarily abandoning your permanent residency (say, to live in your home or a third country for a few years) make it more dif…

You also are smart enough to understand that socioeconomic disadvantages are orthogonal to racism and sexism and that your 'poor white dudes' would have an even harder time of thin…

Dude, come on. Pointing out that racism and sexism has made things harder for people that aren't white and male is not the same thing as being racist and sexist yourself. I know yo…

Hell, no. I know I've been lucky. I also know that while I was lucky, I wouldn't have been in a position to be lucky if I hadn't made some good decisions. I didn't just sit back an…

Of course I'm not saying 'they should not be allowed to'. I'm not quite sure how you'd get that. I'm saying that their deep obsessiveness, and issues relating to being deeply obses…

'Coding in your spare time' isn't quite as extreme as having no life outside of tech. Hey, I code a bit in my spare time too, so let me clarify. It's the people who don't do anythi…