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You can save yourself a lot of time and possibly attract the right type of candidate By posting the salary (not just a range) including all benefits as well as the type of work the…

I'm sorry you're going through this. I don't know what your position is but I may be able to help you with the "finding a new job" part of your anxiety. Please feel free to reach o…

this is really helpful. thank you

I know you're right but just reading what wrote makes me feel queasy. Things ended so abruptly im not sure that we dont still love each other. There's a good chance that I'm foolin…

I feel the same way. In my case I have no love interest so I can at least pretend that that will help (it won’t). If you’re like me then it’s a near certainty that none of the sugg…

Thanks, that what it feels like to me. I’ve survived over the last few years by leaning into the hatred for what she’s done to our family. Now that seems to have subsided and I’m l…

It was very abrupt. Our marriage was difficult but I always believed we could figure it out. I think we both felt exactly the same way about each other at the end. She filed for di…

She was my first and currently only relationship. I have two kids with her. I cannot imagine being with anyone else. I’m not religious but our marriage felt sacred. It’s been 4 yea…

I'd love to chat. Looking forward!

I really appreciate your comment. I agree about "how to win friends and influence people". It feels manipulative as hell. Can you expand a little on how to actively listen better? …

I do this! There's something about the way he talks that gives me perspective. Hims and Bukowski when I'm feeling particularly dark. The thing is I find myself back to where I star…

I think as a child my mom often asked me if I had friends at school in this worried tone. I suppose I made a decision to hide parts of myself in order to have friends. And it worke…

This is pretty spot on. I grew up in an orthodox religious home where a sense of community was a given. I'm no longer part of that community and I feel it. Regarding not trusting w…

You're right. I think you just pointed out a deep belief I currently hold regarding connecting with other people. I don't have it right. When I used to have friends in my late 20's…

Thats a great point! I suppose I'm trying to avoid feeling like a pos for potentially feeling like I wasted my time if the social interaction didn't alleviate my loneliness. So i d…

Thanks for the detailed response and the kind offer. I appreciate this advice especially the less obvious piece. The typical (hobbies, hang our in public places etc.) advice just h…

Thanks for the kind words. The resistance I'm up against is that I feel like I'm just using people to alleviate the loneliness. It feels manipulative and inauthentic. Like I'm putt…